I can’t even imagine what your life is like. Your story brings me to tears.
Processing trauma when you are up to your eyeballs in kids isn’t a reasonable expectation. Finding friends for moral support is nearly impossible at this point. But on the other hand, your therapist makes a good point when she asks you to look how far you’ve already come. Maybe your writing will encourage support from an as-yet-unknown source.
I am an atheist, so I won’t pray for help, but I can hope for it.
Breanna, you are way more than enough. You are doing 10 jobs. And you need a break. A hand. And your ex needs to go to jail and his wages garnished. The court needs to seize the financial support/income you're entitled to and give it to you. I'm in New York but will keep thinking. Is there a legal services rep? Who could get this done? Is there another woman w or w/o a young child who needs a place to live? You could maybe consider sharing your shelter in exchange for income and/or help at home? Your city may offer monetary and food benefits. Or a different church. You'd qualify. Most churches are not like your alleged church. (That ain't a church, girl). "All men will be tyrants if they can" said Abigail Adams, a wife of a US founding father. It's why I keep working. Made ton of money in oil field and elsewhere. Still criminally held by a US tyrant. We have to keep beating these jerks off us and our money. I'll share when I get mine. It's exhausting.
Your attempt to garner sympathy for your situation is misguided and dishonest. Let's address the facts:
1. You were not kicked out of a "cult," but a normal church that was simply enforcing its ethical standards and financial obligations.
2. The real reason for your expulsion was not your personal circumstances, but your husband's illegal check kiting activities. This fraudulent behaviour is a serious crime that undermines the trust and integrity of financial systems.
3. Your characterization of the church as a "cult" is a transparent attempt to deflect from your own wrongdoing and paint yourself as a victim. Real cults exhibit far more extreme and controlling behaviours than what you've described.
4. The church's request for you to fulfill your financial commitments before taking a vacation is not unreasonable. Many organizations expect members to meet their obligations before indulging in personal luxuries.
5. Your attempt to blame postpartum depression or financial hardship for your actions is a weak excuse. Many people face similar challenges without resorting to illegal activities or shirking their responsibilities.
6. The fact that you continued to have children despite your claimed financial difficulties suggests a lack of personal responsibility and planning on your part.
7. Your in-laws' decision to inform church leadership about your plans was likely motivated by concern for the church's wellbeing, not malice.
Instead of playing the victim and spreading misinformation about your former church, you should take responsibility for your actions. Illegal check kiting is a serious offence that can have severe consequences, including criminal charges and imprisonment. Your attempt to reframe this situation as religious persecution is both disingenuous and potentially harmful to others who might be misled by your account.
In the future, consider honesty and personal accountability as better paths forward than attempting to manipulate others' sympathies with a distorted narrative.
I can’t even imagine what your life is like. Your story brings me to tears.
Processing trauma when you are up to your eyeballs in kids isn’t a reasonable expectation. Finding friends for moral support is nearly impossible at this point. But on the other hand, your therapist makes a good point when she asks you to look how far you’ve already come. Maybe your writing will encourage support from an as-yet-unknown source.
I am an atheist, so I won’t pray for help, but I can hope for it.
Breanna, you are way more than enough. You are doing 10 jobs. And you need a break. A hand. And your ex needs to go to jail and his wages garnished. The court needs to seize the financial support/income you're entitled to and give it to you. I'm in New York but will keep thinking. Is there a legal services rep? Who could get this done? Is there another woman w or w/o a young child who needs a place to live? You could maybe consider sharing your shelter in exchange for income and/or help at home? Your city may offer monetary and food benefits. Or a different church. You'd qualify. Most churches are not like your alleged church. (That ain't a church, girl). "All men will be tyrants if they can" said Abigail Adams, a wife of a US founding father. It's why I keep working. Made ton of money in oil field and elsewhere. Still criminally held by a US tyrant. We have to keep beating these jerks off us and our money. I'll share when I get mine. It's exhausting.
Pa ya gotta be willing to get mean sometimes out in there in the world.
Your attempt to garner sympathy for your situation is misguided and dishonest. Let's address the facts:
1. You were not kicked out of a "cult," but a normal church that was simply enforcing its ethical standards and financial obligations.
2. The real reason for your expulsion was not your personal circumstances, but your husband's illegal check kiting activities. This fraudulent behaviour is a serious crime that undermines the trust and integrity of financial systems.
3. Your characterization of the church as a "cult" is a transparent attempt to deflect from your own wrongdoing and paint yourself as a victim. Real cults exhibit far more extreme and controlling behaviours than what you've described.
4. The church's request for you to fulfill your financial commitments before taking a vacation is not unreasonable. Many organizations expect members to meet their obligations before indulging in personal luxuries.
5. Your attempt to blame postpartum depression or financial hardship for your actions is a weak excuse. Many people face similar challenges without resorting to illegal activities or shirking their responsibilities.
6. The fact that you continued to have children despite your claimed financial difficulties suggests a lack of personal responsibility and planning on your part.
7. Your in-laws' decision to inform church leadership about your plans was likely motivated by concern for the church's wellbeing, not malice.
Instead of playing the victim and spreading misinformation about your former church, you should take responsibility for your actions. Illegal check kiting is a serious offence that can have severe consequences, including criminal charges and imprisonment. Your attempt to reframe this situation as religious persecution is both disingenuous and potentially harmful to others who might be misled by your account.
In the future, consider honesty and personal accountability as better paths forward than attempting to manipulate others' sympathies with a distorted narrative.